Forgiveness Leads To Happiness!!!

Forgiveness leads to happiness.

Forgiveness can free and release you if you choose to! There is so much happiness behind forgiveness.

Forgiveness transforms bitterness into a neutral or positive feeling, making you happier. In 2021 I completed a full year of practice of forgiveness, spending 8 minutes daily forgiving people in my life that had upset me and done things that made me unhappy—also forgiving myself for the mistakes I have made over my lifetime. I am still currently doing forgiveness practice daily. However, it only goes for 3 minutes now; this is part of the 6-phase meditation I do each morning. I enjoy this meditation.

The link below if you would like to check it out this meditation:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaRu14P9H84

You are forgiving people that have hurt or upset you in the past to make you a clear channel and to feel free. The anger and aggression we hold for other people when they have betrayed us will not help in the long run. Yes, someone made a mistake; this could be small or big. However, you do not want to feel this pain forever; you want to move on with your life and have the incredible life you deserve. By forgiving them, you do not agree with their actions. However, you are ok to say this happened, and you have moved on for yourself and your bliss. You do not want this anger to hold you back in any way! The amount of time you need to forgive depends on what happened, who did it and when you feel you are ready to forgive; this is your decision and no one else’s.

What I think of this?

If you can forgive someone that has hurt you in the past, I believe you should try, there are many health and social benefits. Saints do not just practice forgiveness, nor does it benefit only its recipients. Everyone can practice forgiveness. Wouldn’t it be nice to feel Zen sometimes!

What is forgiveness?

If you cannot forgive them and hold a grudge, this will weigh you down.

When you forgive, you are the one who benefits. Remember, forgiveness is not about excusing one's past behaviour or actions; instead, it is a process that allows you to free yourself of any burden or grudge weighing you down.

Forgiveness is a conscious decision to release resentment or anger towards a person who has harmed you, regardless of whether they deserve your forgiveness.

Please note there is a big difference between forgiving and forgetting.

Who should do this?

I invite everyone to do this practice if they are open to trying this. You can do this practice in whatever way that best serves you.

Top Quotes

“When we forgive, we restore the natural flow of love.” Harold W. Bockor

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future. Paul Boese.

“Forgive others not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.” Jonathan Huie

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Gandhi

“We are not perfect, forgive others as you would want to be forgiven.” Catherine Pulsifer

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody. You are relieved of carrying that burden of resentment. You really are lighter. You feel lighter. You just drop that.” Maya Angelou.

“When we allow hate in our hearts, it consumes us. It leaves no room for love. It doesn’t feel good at all. Release it. “Penny Lee.

“Forgive them, even when they are not sorry.

Let them be right, if that’s what they need.

Send them love and send them off.

Don’t tie yourself to small-mindedness.

It will steal your well-being.   From Facebook.com/ThinkPositivePower

8 Steps of Vishen Lakhiani forgiveness section, this is part 3 of the 6-phase meditation- the link from above:

1. Identify the person and the act to forgive—See them in your mind’s eye.

2.  Create the space- where you feel most comfortable; this can be where you are when doing the practice and where you are in your mental image. For example, I usually like seeing the forest or garden during this practice. However, this is only in my mind's eye; I do not need to be there physically.

3. Read the charges; this is where you tell them in your imagination what they did to upset or betray you, be very clear.

4. Feel the anger and pain. Allow yourself to feel the pain for 1-2 minutes maximum.

5.  Think of what you have learned in this experience.

6.  Think about how the other person may have been hurt in the past. This is where you could feel empathy for that person. Something could have triggered that person to behave a certain way; we are not saying that the behaviour is correct. However, we do not know what that person has experienced.

7.  See it from their eyes. Could you feel empathy for that person who has upset/betrayed you? Pretend you are that person; how are you feeling?

8. Forgive into love; this is where you can imagine hugging them, this step 8 may not happen straight away. Be patient with yourself; when you are ready for this step, you can do it. This one experience can be practice as many times as you need to, weeks, months, depending on the situation.

If you like to listen more on the steps, check out the below podcast:

https://podcast.mindvalley.com/8-steps-to-hack-forgiveness-vishen-lakhiani/

As I said earlier, I initially practiced for 8 minutes daily for one year to release some of the blocks in my life. Afterwards, I continue with the meditation practice, which has forgiveness in there already. There are days when I have nothing to forgive; this is when I bless everyone around me. However, sometimes, something even small occurs, so I want to forgive and move on. I want to be a clear channel, and I clean my slate every day. Think of emptying out the rubbish each day, you did that for your kitchen, why not do that for yourself!

There are so many things you will learn from inviting this practice to your life, see below:

• Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life by bringing peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to have in your life.
• Spiritually when you to forgiveness, you receive love more fully. You become lighter and freer when you let go of the hurt.
• When someone has caused you pain, it is only when you can move forward with a clean slate you can progress on your blissful and spiritual journey.
• You may also need to forgive yourself for your past actions. It is not that you did the wrong thing. You were not in the same state of mind as you are now; we are all evolving and growing, and what we may have done in the past would disagree with the current self. We are on a learning journey. The question to ask here- did I learn something here?
• You could list as many things as possible you want to forgive; they can be small, medium, or large. Let's start with the small ones first. When doing this practice, you need to set aside at least 3-10 minutes each day to do this practice for the first 6-12 months to clear you of all the forgiveness; the person you may be forgiving could be you. For example, I often need to forgive myself for yelling at my kids; I don't want to yell at them; however, by the third time I have said what needs to happen, and no one is doing anything, I am getting angry. Then once I yelled, I regretted doing that, as my kids got upset.
• We start with the easy ones to forgive first because we need to build our empathy muscle. Remember, sometimes people are not trying to hurt you on purpose; they have their issues and may not even realise they have hurt you with what they said or done. Instead, they unintentionally take their anger out on you, as you are there when these feelings boil over.
• Something as simple as waitress at a Café being rude to you over lunch can annoy you, or someone cutting you off in traffic. So, I would recommend, if possible, doing the practice on the day. Don't wait till you have so many things to forgive; if you do it daily, life will get much more manageable.
• Clean yourself daily of forgiveness. Just like you have a shower each day to clean your body to remove the germs and bacteria, by doing forgiveness exercises, you are cleaning your soul.

Benefits of forgiveness:

• - Happier,
• - Cheerful,
• - Lower stress,
• - Stronger,
• - Able to hold space for yourself and the people in your life,
• - More energy,
• - Positive outlook,
• - Better mood,
• - Social,
• - Less anxiety,
• - Fewer symptoms of depression,
• - Lower blood pressure,
• - Stronger immune system,
• - Improved heart health,
• - Improved self-esteem,
• - Great peace of mind,
• - Maintains your cortisol level (hormone),
• - Alpha waves (dream state) increases,
• - Heal faster,
• - Become more intuitive.

Once you start this practice, you can hold space for all the different areas in your life over time. You will move from surviving daily to thriving daily!

Forgiveness video, you can check the below link:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7y53YjY2-lc

To Conclude

Forgiveness will make you happier! Don’t let things fester and make the situation worst. We can use our energy and time holding resentment with someone or choose to overcome the hurt and forgive. We will appreciate life more once we accept that people make mistakes and forgiveness is part of the journey. We hope people will forgive us for our wrongdoings as well.

Is there someone in your life that you can forgive today? Could you start this practice in your life? Start with something small! You can be forgiving yourself for past mistake.

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