Blog 66: From Overwhelmed to Empowered: A Mum's Guide to Reclaiming Herself
Feeling overwhelmed and lost in the journey of motherhood? This guide offers practical steps and empowering insights to help you reclaim your well-being and rediscover your dreams.
Introduction
The alarm clock blares, but it's merely a formality. You've been awake for hours, tending to little ones, navigating the endless to-do list, and battling the nagging voice of self-doubt. The weight of motherhood, while beautiful, can feel crushing. The constant juggling act leaves you feeling overwhelmed, questioning your every decision, and yearning for the woman you once were. But amidst the chaos, there's a glimmer of hope. A transformation awaits, a shift from merely surviving to truly thriving. It's time to reclaim your wellbeing, rediscover your dreams, and step into your power. I am here to guide you every step of the way.
The Overwhelm is Real (and it's not your fault)
The dishes are piled high, the laundry basket overflows, and the kids are demanding for your attention. Your to-do list seems to grow exponentially, while your energy levels dwindle. You're constantly rushing from one task to the next, feeling like you're barely keeping your head above water. The guilt creeps in as you realise you haven't had a moment to yourself all day, let alone pursued any personal goals. You're not alone. The overwhelm is real, and it's not your fault. Motherhood often feels like an endless marathon, with little time for rest or recovery. The pressure to do it all, and do it perfectly, can leave you feeling exhausted, inadequate, and disconnected from your own needs and dreams. But amidst the chaos, remember this: you are not alone, and change is possible.
Steps to Support You on this Journey
1. Be Kind to Yourself: Ditch the Guilt and Embrace Self-Compassion
The first step towards feeling empowered? It's surprisingly simple: be kind to yourself. We know, easier said than done when that inner critic constantly whispers, "You're not doing enough." But let's reduce the volume of that negativity and replace it with some understanding and encouragement.
· Silence the Inner Critic: Catch those self-critical thoughts and give them a compassionate makeover. Instead of "I'm such a mess," try "I'm doing the best I can in a tough situation."
· Live in the Moment: Mindfulness isn't just for yogis. It's about being present noticing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. This can help you tackle those overwhelming moments with calmer and less chaos.
· Forgive Yourself: We all mess up sometimes – it's part of being human! Instead of dwelling on mistakes, acknowledge them, learn, and move on gracefully.
2. Self-Care: It's Not Selfish, It's Survival
Self-care isn't a luxury spa day (although those are nice, too!). It's the essential fuel that keeps you going. Think of it as carving out little pockets of peace in your day to recharge and reconnect with yourself.
· Schedule It In: Treat self-care like a doctor's appointment – it's that important! Block out time in your calendar, even if it's just a few minutes, and don't let anything else steal those precious moments.
· Baby Steps are Okay: Don't have hours to spare? No problem. Even 5-10 minutes of dedicated "me time" can make a difference. A quick meditation, a cup of tea in silence, or gentle stretches can work wonders.
· Find Your Bliss: Self-care looks different for everyone. Experiment and discover what truly nourishes your soul. It could be reading, a bubble bath, a creative hobby, or simply sitting in the sunshine.
3. Set Goals You Can Reach: Progress, Not Perfection
Empowerment is about more than reaching some unattainable ideal. It's about taking small, steady steps forward. Setting realistic goals helps you celebrate your wins and keep moving in the right direction.
· What Matters Most? Take a moment to reflect. What's truly important to you right now? Pick a few key areas to focus on – your health, relationships, or a personal passion.
· Break It Down: Big goals can feel daunting. Break them into smaller, bite-sized tasks that feel less overwhelming and more achievable.
· Roll with the Punches: Life with kids is unpredictable. Be kind to yourself and adjust your goals or timelines as needed. Remember, it's about progress, not perfection.
4. Find Your Mum Tribe: You're Not Alone in This
Motherhood can sometimes feel like a solo journey, but it doesn't have to be. Connecting with other mums who "get it" can offer support and encouragement.
· Community is Key: Join local mum groups, online forums, or social media communities where you can connect with women who are navigating similar challenges.
· Make Time for Mum Friends: Schedule playdates, coffee dates, or walks with other mums. Sharing experiences and lifting each other can be incredibly empowering.
· Ask for Help: Whether asking a friend to watch the kids for an hour or seeking professional support, reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness.
5. Rediscover Your Passions: Reignite Your Spark
Becoming a mum doesn't mean saying goodbye to your dreams. Reconnecting with your passions can bring back that spark and add joy and purpose to your life.
· What Makes You Tick? Think back to the things you loved before kids. What have you always wanted to try? Make a list of your passions and interests.
· Start Small: Carve a little time each week to explore those passions. It could be painting, writing, playing an instrument, or anything that brings you joy.
· Dream Big: What are your long-term aspirations? What kind of impact do you want to make on the world? Give yourself permission to dream big and explore the possibilities.
Remember, the journey from overwhelmed to empowered is an ongoing adventure. Embrace the ups and downs, celebrate your victories, and learn from the challenges. You're capable, strong, and worthy of a life filled with joy, purpose, and fulfilment.
Top Quotes
"Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” Eleanor Brownn
"In raising my children, I have lost my mind but found my soul." Lisa T. Shepherd
"The best mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who have never given up." Unknown
“There's no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” Jill Churchill
"The days are long, but the years are short." Gretchen Rubin
"You are the perfect mom for your children." Unknown
Questions and Reflection
- What limiting beliefs are holding you back?
- What are your unique strengths and talents?
- What does a fulfilling and empowered life look like for you?
Remember, this journey is about progress, not perfection. Embrace the ups and downs, celebrate your wins, and learn from your challenges. You are capable, you are strong, and you are worthy of a life filled with joy, purpose, and empowerment.
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Conclusion
The journey from overwhelmed to empowered is not a sprint but a marathon. It's about taking small, consistent steps towards reclaiming your wellbeing, rediscovering your dreams, and embracing the incredible woman you are. Remember, you are not alone. There's a community of mothers cheering you on, ready to offer support and encouragement every step of the way. So, let's raise a toast:
"Cheers to us, mums! May we find joy and purpose in our journey and have the energy to chase our dreams alongside our little ones."
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The September 8th blog post, number 67 Beyond the 'Shoulds': Reclaim Your Peace, Mama. We will dive into the empowering concept of releasing expectations to safeguard your emotional wellbeing. Discover how freeing yourself from expectations can lead to greater inner peace and more fulfilling relationships.
“Remove expectation from people, and you will remove their power to hurt your feelings. If you don't like something, take away its only power: your attention.” Bruce Lee.
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With much Love
Mukti Santos
"Your kids don't need a perfect mom; they need a happy one." Unknown
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